I can't explain why, but I think the moments I am most attracted to someone is when I really see their indivdual humanity and fallibility. Seeing their flaws, insecurities, weaknesses- a time when you see someone angry, frustrated, depressed, laughing, or crying, really makes apparent the common link between you and them as a human being, exposes ways that they are just like you in ways they may not have wanted to admit, and you may not have wanted to admit either.